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Personal Issue: Why we sometimes have to fail.

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Personal Issue: Why we sometimes have to fail. To fail feels like a no-go in todays society. Even though its strongly connected to our development and part of our evolving personality. I feel its totally natural to sometimes fail and to grow with this setback. Failure is strongly connected to weakness, lack of willpower and imperfections. When people fail to reach their goals it’s often dismissed as something they have to blame on themselves. Therefore it’s primarily linked to your own strength, your overestimation. Fear of failure has become a catalyst for many other problems because we rarely accept  to make mistakes ourselves. We intend to be perfect or to become perfect since the image of being full field is the one of being perfect. Perfection is everything. From our appearance, the way we talk and how we integrate into society. We don’t want to be blamed on something or feel ashamed in front of others. We don’t want to show our weakness or let our true inner disappointment be displayed to others. We are …

Personal Issue: Warum wir immer mehr wollen, aber immer weniger Zeit haben

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Personal Issue: Warum wir immer mehr wollen, aber immer weniger Zeit haben Ich glaube wir leben in einer Gesellschaft, in der wir schnell unzufrieden sind. Vielleicht ist dies manchen bewusst, vielen jedoch auch nicht. Vor kurzem bin ich über einen Artikel von Der Zeit gestolpert, in dem es um die Unzufriedenheit in unsere Gesellschaft geht und das der Glücksfaktor irgendwann einfach ausgereizt ist. Doch woher kommt diese Unzufriedenheit? Haben wir wirklich Grund, so unzufrieden zu sein? Mir persönlich fällt meine Unzufriedenheit immer dann auf, wenn ich mehr will. Und dies beziehe ich nicht auf neue Kleidung, Kissenhüllen oder Duftkerzen. Materielle Dinge schließe ich hier bewusst aus. Vielmehr geht es um Leistungen, Entwicklungen und Erfolgserlebnisse. Ich gebe euch ein aktuelles, sehr banales Beispiel: ich möchte im Yoga eine bestimmte Pose erlernen, scheitere aktuell aber noch dran. Zack, ich bin unzufrieden mit meiner eigenen Leistung. Und das ist nicht die erste Situation aus sportlicher Hinsicht, in der ich unzufrieden war. Sobald etwas nicht ganz so klappt wie ich mir das vorstelle, Zweifel ich. Ich gebe zwar nicht …

Personal Issue: What makes Christmas so special to me?

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It’s the season to be jolly and bright. Nevertheless I have been thinking about these festive days and what makes them so special to me. Because way to often we forget how special these days are and why we actually like to celebrate them. Christmas is a Christian feast on which they celebrate the birth of Jesus on the 25th of December. On the evening of the 24th the people start to celebrate with dinners, worship services and exchanging gifts. It’s a tradition which has become far more commercial and is not only celebrated by Christians anymore. I for myself have no religion. My parents have been baptized as Christian and evangelist but decided to let us decide for ourselves if we want to enter a church or follow a certain confession. I never felt really secure with either of them which is why I decided not to be baptized. But this is another topic I don’t want to illustrate now. My dad worked for the German military and we had to move cities quite …

Personal Issue: About being a university student and why it doesn’t fulfill me

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Today I want to open up to you about a topic which has been on my mind for quite some time. And yes, the title already spoils it all. In 2012 I started to study Art History and Theatre science at the Freie Universität Berlin. Directly after finishing school I became a university student. My start wasn’t that great since just five days after the semester officially started I lost my father (you can read about this here). But maybe I have to go back a little further so you can understand why I started studying these topics. During my last school year I decided that I would like to become a dancer and go to a school where I could be trained professionally. Due to all my studying for the final school exams I didn’t have enough time to train as you need to in order to get a spot at those institutions. Which is why I decided I would train for one year everyday and apply for the dancer program during the next …

Personal Issue: Why Dogs are really better than Humans

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I‘ve always been a dog lover, my whole childhood I wanted to have a furry friend and they day my parents got a golden retriever was probably one of the happiest in my life. But why are people so fond of dogs anyway? Now, that I’m living in the centre of Berlin, I can understand that some people don’t like dogs. When they’re ill-bred and do what they want, people are scared or annoyed rather than pleased by them. Nevertheless, there is so much that humans don’t see and with that, so many issues that we create with wrong body language or handling of dogs. Through my mom, who is an even bigger dog lover than I am and has educated herself a lot when it comes to dog education, I learned that dogs don’t like it when you lean over them, that you should always keep 5 core orders that a dog knows and that they calm dog when you touch their chests. There are million more interesting tricks and hacks, also specific for …

Personal Issue: About feeling helpless

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From time to time we all feel a little vulnerable and helpless. Some of us more often than others but mostly we can recover and build new strength. But we all probably know what its like to feel helpless. And I not only mean feeling helpless for ourselves but especially for others. So, I came to ask the question: why do we sometimes feel so helpless? What are these situations and is it possible to overcome them? I never thought that I would be picking up this kind off topic in a blog post but lately I figured it would be a good platform to talk about it. In my environment I have discovered a high rate of people facing eating disorders. I think this stems from the fact that I constantly work with girls from the age 13 to 18 and I have watched some of them grow up. From being a kid to becoming a teenager, struggling with various life issues. We have all been through this age or a currently still facing …

Personal Issue: When your priorities change

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At some point we all have our priorities and somehow organize our lives according to them. Maybe not realizing this straight away but those priorities really shape us and how we arrange our daily life and, really important, our future. What are the values we want to keep and pass on? How important is this or that? And is this really necessary? But this is all a little more complex, as I have experienced lately. I guess the least of us know their priorities straight away. When someone would come up to me and ask for my priorities I would certainly have to think for a while. For a long time I thought I knew what my priorities are, since I’m always really organized when it comes to life and schedules. But I guess life events, people and certain circumstances change those preferences and you start to over-think your way of living. My first, vast major life course was when my father died in 2012 (find an article on that here). So much changed in …

Personal Issue: About confidence and self-doubt

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You probably ask yourself how the terms confidence and self-doubt fit into one post but I promise you: they can. Through out the last few months I have been working on the ballet production of my dance school which is always fun but also very stressful. One week before the premiere takes place, we bring everything on stage and rehearse for long hours in order to deliver a marvelous performance. I always become very excited when this week arrives since its the moment I love the most; the moment when we go on stage for the first time and feel the rush of adrenaline running through my body. Nevertheless it is also the moment I feel the most vulnerable, I have to figure out if everything I have plotted together in my mind comes together and if I can fill this huge space with, well, just my facial expression and the choreography my body fulfills. The stage therefore has become a place of confidence and self-doubt for me. I feel the pressure, resting on my …

Personal Issue: When do we ever give ourselves a break?

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The title of this weeks personal issue post captures it all pretty well. And just by writing this article, late at night on a Sunday evening, the question seems more current than ever. Lately I have been working for more than one project, the biggest one being our annual summer ballet which has my schedule fully under control. Plus university, another dance project and our blog. I may not work full-time in a firm but the hours I work cover more than a forty hour week. Free weekends? A real rarity lately. And yes, you may think “Why is she doing all this? Is it really necessary?” And guess what: I constantly ask these questions myself. People think that everything comes easy and that the things I do are my own choice. And your right, everything I do and work for is completely done with passion and love. I easily sacrifice weekends and train or work long hours in the evening, even though my day was busy already. But still: when do we ever give ourselves …

Personal Issue: Why do we always judge each other?

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Lately, I couldn’t help but think a lot about “judging” and how it affects our lives in general. I understand, that judging means to formulate an opinion about a person, often without knowing them better or being present at the circumstances. For some reason, judging others is a sport among women, especially when Instagram is involved. Profiles are checked out, opinions are formed – a picture that is a little bit too revealing or make-up that is applied is a little bit too much, will be topic of talk in minutes! But why are we so pre-occupied with others? And why do we think, that our interpretation is always right? Honestly, I think judging others should not even be a thing. We should all keep in mind, that people are flawed (we all are) and everyone has the right to live and present themselves on Social Media in the way they want. However, when people are presenting themselves on Social Media this way, shouldn’t we also be allowed to form opinions and talk about it? …